The most common reason people attend couples counseling is when the partners in a relationship are having difficulty getting along. Couples often present with communication troubles, frequent arguments, emotional ups and downs, feelings of distance, betrayal, or contempt, affairs, or disagreements over basic relationship issues such as children, money, sex, or time. Couples often come in to counseling hoping a therapist can help in some way though they may not know just how they expect the therapist to help. Some may expect the therapist to choose sides and decide “who’s right.” Other couples may want a mediator for their arguments, or to learn communication skills. It’s important to discuss expectations with your therapist, to ensure they are realistic and agreeable to all parties.